Do You Like Me?
What do you do when you have a crush or simply want to impress someone? Do you pay extra attention to everything they say? Do you praise them no matter what? Do you laugh at all their jokes, even if they're not funny? Sure, we all love to think we wouldn't stoop so low just because we want someone to like us back, but you'd be surprised. In fact, if you have a person in mind, you might be doing a few (or all) of the 20 things on this list.
1. They Laugh Harder at Their Jokes
Ha ha ha, they're so naturally funny! Well, not really, but you're going to laugh at every joke they tell because you want to get along with them. After all, that extra encouragement might make the other person feel more comfortable opening up to you and chatting with you more.
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2. They Remember Tiny Details
They might have only mentioned their favorite coffee order once, but you've locked it in your memory. When you're invested in building a connection, you'll pay attention to all the details, no matter how minor—it's your way of telling the other person that their words matter to you.
3. They Agree More Than Usual
You wouldn't have said yes to someone else, but if that person is saying it, you're suddenly much more agreeable. Everything they say is right! Even if they hold opposite opinions, you're still going to pretend like what they say is the law.
4. They Ask Plenty of Questions
If you're talking to someone you feel lukewarm about, you might pray for the conversation to be done soon. But with someone you're craving validation from? You're instantly asking them about everything under the sun, from their hobbies to their job, family, weekend plans, or whatever else they've mentioned.
5. They Find Reasons to Offer Help
Do they need someone to carry something? You're there in a jiffy. Anyone hoping to make a favorable impression may volunteer even before other people get the chance. After all, you know that being helpful will give you an opportunity for the two of you to interact.
6. They Become More Available
You're not just helping whenever you can, though. Even if your schedule's packed, you're suddenly much more flexible when you really want to spend time with someone. You might even clear your day or accept invitations you normally would've declined, all because you're creating more chances to meet.
7. They Compliment Specific Things
Generic praise can feel automatic, so anyone who's trying to establish a stronger connection often notices the smaller details. You might compliment them on their shoes, sense of humor (ha ha ha, they're so funny!), cooking, or anything else they've mentioned working hard on. Specific compliments show that you've been paying attention, so they make you stand out.
8. They Mirror Someone's Energy
When you want someone to like you, you'll also often mirror their exact personality. If they're usually animated, you're more expressive, too; if they're reserved, you tone it down. Matching their communication style can make an interaction feel easier for both of you, so why wouldn't you use this tactic?
9. They Try the Things the Other Person Likes
If they never mentioned it, you probably wouldn't have batted an eye. But because they talked about it, of course you're also jumping on the bandwagon to validate their tastes. Plus, trying their interests will give you both more common ground to discuss, so it's a win-win.
10. They Put Extra Effort Into Their Appearance
Right when you hear that a certain someone is going to be at the work party, you're instantly changing out of your pajamas and throwing on your best outfit. You know how much appearance can influence someone's perception, which is why you're upping your game whenever you've got someone to impress.
11. They Respond Quickly
Your friends might be lucky enough to get a reply from you a week later, but that person you've been interested in? You're responding to their texts faster than the speed of sound. In fact, you're surprisingly reliable whenever you're eager to maintain a connection.
12. They Look for Common Ground
Finding out you both love The Notebook, hate pickles, or grew up watching the same cartoon can instantly give your conversation more momentum. People seeking approval often pay close attention to shared interests, as that allows them to relate to others better and, of course, gives them more time to chat.
13. They Use the Person's Name More Often
You might not even realize this, but when you're searching for someone's approval or interest, you're more likely to say their name. No matter if you're greeting them or naturally working their name into a conversation, you'd be pretty shocked just how many times you say it.
14. They Avoid Checking Their Phone
If you're keen on making a good impression, you're going to give them your full attention. Even your phone stays in your pocket! That kind of focus signals that you're far more invested in the conversation happening in front of you than whatever is on the screen.
15. They Introduce Them to Other People
Introducing someone to a group can be another way of showing your interest. Of course, you could just be a naturally outgoing person who doesn't want others to feel left out, but there's also a higher chance of you bringing someone into the circle if you simply just want them to like you.
16. They Become More Considerate About Their Habits
Do you often swear around your friends? Well, you might just curb that habit whenever that particular person is around. Anything you normally wouldn't think twice about suddenly needs to be tamped down—you don't want to scare the person away, after all.
17. They Bring Up Previous Conversations
Remembering an earlier discussion shows that someone wasn't merely waiting for the conversation to end. They might ask how your interview went, whether you finished the book you were reading, or what happened with a problem you'd mentioned before. Following up creates continuity and lets the other person know their experiences weren't immediately forgotten.
18. They Try to Make the Person Comfortable
You don't just introduce the person you're trying to impress into your inner circle; in fact, you're going above and beyond to make them comfortable. For example, you might offer them a seat, adjust plans around their preferences, or make sure they're being heard in a group. Small acts of consideration can say quite a lot without an obvious display of affection.
19. They Share More About Themselves
Wanting another person to like you can also encourage a little more openness. Even if you're usually pretty reserved, you may tell personal stories or reveal opinions you normally wouldn't say to people you don't know well yet. Again, sharing information gives you more opportunities to chat, so you always take the leap.
20. They Look for Reasons to Keep the Interaction Going
When a conversation is naturally coming to a close, you're scrambling for ways to continue chatting. You want more interactions with this person, not less! The more you get to talk to them, the closer you'll get, so you're constantly searching for the next topic, and the next...
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