Don’t Go Insane!
Dating can be quite stressful, with so many people choosing to avoid it just because it’s so stressful and annoying. But it doesn’t have to be this way! In fact, these tips are built to help you approach dating in a healthy and manageable way. After all, isn’t dating supposed to be fun?
1. Have Fun With It
Dating is supposed to be fun and carefree. Don't talk about depressing subjects, politics, or religion to start off with. If your date is laughing and having a good time, they'll be more relaxed, and so will you!
2. It’s About Compatibility
Healthy dating is compatible and honest. Finding someone that's truly your match can strengthen the relationship. So if you run into someone who just isn’t compatible, don’t take it so hard when you have to let them go.
3. Don’t Rush to Reject
Dating should be taken slow, and you should never rush into rejection. After all, a lifetime with someone is a long time; you should be patient and smart about it. Go for someone who wants you and will do all he can to keep you.
4. People Tell You Who They Are
Individuals show their true identity through their words and deeds. Listen to and believe them. Accepting an individual for who they really are is the key to a genuine and healthy relationship.
5. Kindness is Contagious
Kindness is one of the most powerful and contagious things when it comes to dating. It makes you and your partner both reciprocate the kindness, enabling the two of you to build a strong connection on being kind to one another.
6. Self-Confidence
The most important part of dating is gaining the confidence and comfort level with yourself when you're single. Once you know who you are and what you want, it's much easier to have healthier, more satisfying relationships. Sometimes it takes a while, but when you get there, everything else will be easy and natural.
7. Mutual Interest
You can't fully be interesting until someone is interested in you. Creating reciprocal interest is essential to connection. Instead of trying too hard to be interesting up front, allow for it to develop naturally.
8. Making Time
If a person really likes you, they will make time to be with you and be present. Putting your relationship as a priority means they are serious and respectful. Don't settle for second best when there are those who will value your time and efforts.
9. Notice Their Effort
You'll know they like you when they make time for you. Healthy daters will be available to spend time with you and make the effort to see you. They'll make time for you even if they're busy because they like you.
10. Dating Shouldn’t Be The End All
Dating is only one aspect of your life. It is not your entire life. Try to cultivate a full and satisfying life which includes hobbies, friends, and personal goals. Maintaining this attitude will help keep you grounded and enjoy dating without feeling pressure.
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11. Don’t Fear Rejection
Don't be afraid of rejection while dating. Rejection isn't personal, it's just a sign the fit wasn't there. It's helpful to think of it that way because it means you're not wasting time on what won't be a long-term relationship. Accepting rejection is a part of dating that will help you find better and healthier matches.
12. Take it Slow
Go at your own pace and allow the relationship to develop naturally. If a person truly cares about you, they will want to get to know you on a much more personal level. Players who are only in it for a short hookup will lose interest and move on very fast.
13. Set Your Boundaries
Know your firm boundaries and never allow anyone to bully you into changing them. Being clear about what you will and won't accept helps to protect your well-being. At the same time, be open-minded about other things so that the relationship has room to grow.
14. Let People In
Allowing individuals to come in is important as it permits you to really know each other. If you maintain your barriers up, it's difficult to see if you are a good match or not. Letting people in allows you to build trust and deeper connections.
15. Learn to Walk Away
The single best dating advice for many people is to use their ability to walk away. There are a million reasons why someone can stay with someone else even if they have glaring incompatibilities or bad behavior. The most common reason is they are afraid to walk away because they think they won't find another partner.
16. Be Yourself
The best way to date is to show up as you. Pretending to be someone you are not only makes both of you miserable. If they aren't loving you for who you are, the relationship won't last.
17. Too Many Doubts
Feeling unsure, stressed, or confused in a relationship is almost always a sign that things aren't right or it's not the right person. It should never feel like a burden or unnatural. The right connections make everything clear and calm, rather than confusing.
18. The Friendship Test
Before you date someone, ask yourself if you would be friends with them. Friendship is a great place to start a healthy relationship. If you wouldn't be friends with them, the relationship will have issues.
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19. Too Many Chances
Remember to set limits, know when to quit. Continually forgiving the same thing over and over is just going to make you resentful and hurt. Take care of yourself, know when to move on.
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20. Value Other Relationships As Well
We tend to overinvest early on in relationships, especially new ones, which can lead to sometimes painful letdowns. Those with a supportive, intimate circle of friends and family are able to self-regulate their emotional investment in relationships. Supportive relationships can moderate our feelings and help us form healthier romantic bonds.
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