How To Be The Best Version Of You
If you're still struggling to find your place in this world, don't worry. Life is full of challenges and while it might knock you down, what's more important is that you get back up. If you're tired of dealing with the same negative thoughts that are weighing down on your self-esteem, we want to give you a helping hand. Here are 10 signs to look out for and 10 ways to start feeling more confident.
1. You Think Others Are Better Than You
No matter what it is, whether it's your appearance, intelligence, or abilities, you're always comparing yourself to others. You fail to see your strengths, ruminate on your losses, and constantly think that everyone else is better than you. Harboring these feelings of defeat deep within is what can cause low self-esteem.
2. You Criticize Yourself
There's a big difference between wanting to improve yourself and criticizing yourself. While one sees your flaws as areas to improve, the other uses it as a weapon to destroy your self-confidence. It's never good being too harsh on yourself, especially when you should be your own number one fan.
3. You're Jealous Of Others
Jealousy can be an especially dangerous emotion when you're using it against yourself. Constantly wanting to be other people only damages your self-esteem. Why are you setting others as the gold standard and not trying to become that yourself? All this does is create feelings of discontentment regarding your own abilities and talents.
4. You Avoid Challenges
People with low self-esteem tend to stay away from challenges where failure is a possibility. Instead of seeing it as a learning experience, they're scared of having to harshly critique their own skills. Not wanting to feel those emotions of being incapable, these individuals prefer staying within their comfort zone.
5. You Hate Compliments
Does receiving compliments make you feel uncomfortable? For some, it's because they don't think they're true. Not being able to see your strengths and thinking people are making up pretty lies is a sign you're not confident in yourself.
6. You Ignore Your Achievements
One of the worst things about having low self-esteem is ignoring even your accomplishments and wins. You should be feeling proud of your achievements instead of thinking they're not worth anything. This negative perspective only makes it so you never feel good about yourself (when you should).
7. You Worry About Asking For Help
Worried that asking for help might reflect badly on your abilities, do you ever hesitate or hold back from doing it? If so, it's time to work on your self-esteem issues. It never hurts to ask for back up when you need it, and can actually be dangerous if you're in a situation that really requires a second hand.
8. You Care About What Others Think Of You
It's hard to be your own person when you're constantly changing things about yourself to better fit other people's expectations. The moment you worry about other's opinions more than your own, that's when you know your self-esteem could use some work.
9. You Overthink Things
Are you stuck thinking over things you could've done better at night? If you tend to make things feel a lot worse than you actually were, you're likely just projecting your insecurities.
10. You People Please
Sometimes being scared you won't fit in with the group makes people turn into chameleons. Have you ever done something not for your own sake, but rather just to make others happy? People pleasing can quickly turn into a toxic trait when you don't know how to stand out for yourself.
1. Wake Up To Positive Self-Affirmations
To start seeing some change, you have to shift your mindset. When you're so used to negativity, adopting that positive way of thinking can feel like a real challenge. That's why waking up and going through positive self-affirmations every day can be an easy yet effective way to start.
2. Acknowledge Your Strengths
The first big step toward feeling more confident with yourself is learning what your strengths are. It's about flipping the narrative — these are the amazing things you're capable of, not things that carry you down. It's very important that you internalize these as positive aspects of who you are as a person.
3. Accept Your Flaws
And while you begin to understand your strengths, it's also time to learn to accept your flaws. Listen, everyone has them. No one is perfect and you need to know that your flaws are what make you unique! After all, improving on these things are what help us grow to become better people.
4. Surround Yourself With Loving People
Don't keep toxic people in your life who consistently make you feel lesser than. You should be around those who lift you up and make you feel good about yourself. Because who we choose to spend time with really shapes how we feel about ourselves too.
5. Learn To Say No
For those of you who are used to people-pleasing, this may be a harder task than most. It's crucial that you understand saying no isn't a bad thing and people won't dislike you for doing it. It means you're setting boundaries and knowing your own worth. If you're not comfortable with something or don't want to do it, be confident and say so.
6. Try Something New
Face your fear of failure and embrace the adrenaline rush of trying something new! It can be scary stepping outside of your comfort zone, but having these experiences are what help us grow to become stronger individuals.
7. Practice Self-Care
In order to become a more confident person, you have to treat yourself kindly. Don't ignore your mental health concerns and learn to practice self-care that keeps you feeling healthy and strong. You can't tackle your next set of problems if you're not feeling up for it mentally!
8. See A Therapist
There's absolutely nothing wrong with seeking help from professionals who can give you proper advice. Therapists know what they're doing; if you think your self-esteem problems are rooted deeper than you can handle on your own, don't hesitate to reach out for help.
9. Do Things That Make You Happy
When you do things that bring you joy, not only does it put a smile on your face, but it brings about a much more positive attitude and perspective too. It's easier to see the brighter side of life and to love yourself more when you're feeling happy and in a good mood. Don't take positivity for granted!
10. Love Yourself!
That leads us to our final point — learn to love yourself! Every little part of you, from your strengths to your flaws and your mistakes make you who you are. Once you start loving the things you once thought were bad, you'll truly start seeing improvements in your confidence.
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